Make Your Attitudes Your Allies

 

How we think shows through in how we act. Attitudes are mirrors of the mind. They reflect thinking.

 

Grow these three Attitudes. Make them your allies in everything you do.

1.  Grow the attitude of I’m activated. To activate others, you must first activate yourself. To get them to be enthusiastic, you must first be enthusiastic yourself. Enthusiasm can make things 1100 percent better.

 

Three steps procedure that will help you to develop the power of enthusiasm

1.      Dig into it deeper. Use this technique to develop enthusiasm toward other people. Find out all you can about another person. What he does his family, his background, his ideas and ambitions and you’ll find your interest in and enthusiasm about him mounting.

2.      In everything you do, life it up. Life up your handshaking. Make your hand clasp. Say I’m glad to know you, “I’m glad to see you again”, Life up your smile, Smile with your eyes. Nobody like artificial pasted-on rubbery smile. For when you smile, people don’t see your teeth; they see a warm, enthusiastic personality, someone they like. Life up your “thank you”, life up your talk, Is your ‘good morning!’ really good?. Are your ‘congratulation’ enthusiastic?. Does your ‘How are you?’ sound interested? People go along with the fellow who believes what he says. Say it with life.

3.      Broadcast good news. Good news does more than get attention; good news pleases people, develops enthusiasm and even promotes good digestion. Transmit good news to your family. Tell them the good hat happened today Recall the amusing pleasant things you experienced and let the unpleasant things stay buried. Transmit good news to the people you work with. Give them encouragement; compliment them at every opportunity, Listen to their problem. Be helpful. Let them know you believe they can succeed, that you have faith in them.

 

2.  Grow the attitude of you are important. Each human being, whether he lives in Ayala Alabang or GK sites, whether he’s ignorant or brilliant, civilized or uncivilized, young or old, has this desire: He wants to feel important. Has a natural desire to feel he is somebody. – this is the strongest, most compelling non biological hunger.

 

How to make people important to you:

1. People do more for you when you make them feel important. The big thinker always adds value to people by visualizing them at their best, because he thinks big about people, he gets their best out of them.
2. When you help others feel important, you help yourself feel important too.  You must feel important to succeed. Helping others to feel important rewards you because it makes you feel more important. Try it and see.

 

Here‘s how to do it:

1. Practice appreciation. Make it a rule to let others know you appreciate what they do for you. Never, never let anyone feel he is taken for granted. Practice appreciation with a warm, sincere smile. Letting others know how you depend on them, makes people feel necessary. Make no exceptions; all of hem must be important.
2. Practice calling people by their names. People like to be called by name. It gives everyone a boost to be addressed by name.
3. Don’t hug glory, invest it instead. Remember, praise is power. Invest the praise you receive from your superior. Pass praise on down to your subordinates, where it will encourage still greater performance.

 

Daily exercise that pays off surprisingly well: Ask yourself everyday, “What can I do today to make my wife and my family happy?” – Do something special for your family often. It doesn’t have to be something expensive. Its thoughtfulness that counts. Get the family or your team. Give them planed attention.

 

3.  Want to make money? Then get the put-service first Attitude. Put service first, and money takes care of itself always. When your record shows that you deserve more money you’ll get more money. You can’t harvest money unless you plant the seeds that grow money. And the seed of money is service. Always give people more than they expect to get. Each little extra something you do for others is a money seed.

 

Think Right Toward People

 

Success depends on the support of other people. The only hurdle between you and what you want to be is the support of others. (Example: Salesman depends on people to buy his product, Executive depend on people to carryout his instruction, if they don’t, the company president or owner fire the executive, not the employees. Collage dean depends on professors to carry forward the educational program. Politician depends on voters to elect him.)

 

Ten simple but tremendously powerful “like people” rules makes US Pres. Lyndon Johnson long before he became president.

1. Learn to remember names, Inefficiency at this point may indicate that your interest is not sufficiently outgoing.
2. Be a comfortable person so there is no strain in being with you. Be an old-shoe kind of individual.
3. Acquire the quality of relaxed easy-going so that things do not ruffle you.
4. Don’t be egotistical. Guard against the impression that you know it all.
5. Cultivate the quality of being interesting so people will get something of value from their association with you.
6. Study to get the ‘scratchy’ element out of your personality, even those of which you may be unconscious.
7. Sincerely attempt to heal, on an honest basis, every misunderstanding you may had or now have. Drain off your grievances.
8. Practice liking people until you learn to do so genuinely.
9. Never miss an opportunity to say a word of congratulation upon anyone’s achievement, or express sympathy in sorrow or disappointment.
10. Give spiritual strength to people, and they will give genuine affection to you.

 

Take the initiative in building friendship.- Leaders always do. It’s easy and natural  for us to tell ourselves, “Let him make the first move”, “Let them call us”, Let her speak first” It’s easy too, virtually to ignore other people. The most important person present is the one person most active in introducing himself. Say: “I may not be very important to him, but he’s important to me. That’s why I’ve got to get to know him.”

 

Six ways to win friends by exercising just a little initiative:

1.      Introduce yourself to others at every possible opportunity. – a parties, meetings, at work, everywhere.

2.      Be sure the other person gets your name straight.

3.      Be sure you can pronounce the other person’s name the way he pronounces it.

4.      Write down the other person’s name, and be mighty sure you have it spelled correctly, if possible get address and telephone no.

5.      Drop a personal note or make a phone call to the new friends you feel you want to know better.

6.      Say pleasant things to strangers. It warms you up and gets you ready for the task ahead.

 

Suggestion:

1. Recognize the fact that no person is perfect. Some people are more nearly perfect than others, but no man is absolutely perfect.
2. Recognize the fact that the other fellow has a right to be different. You don’t have to approve of what another fellow does. But, you must not dislike him for doing it.
3. Don’t be a reformer. You have a right to your own opinion, but sometimes it’s better to keep it yourself.

 

             Key fact: No person is all good and no person is all bad. The perfect person just doesn’t exist.

     The person who does the most talking and the person who is the most successful are rarely the same person. The more successful the person, the more he practices conversation generosity, that is, he encourages the other person to talk about himself, his views, his accomplishment, his family, his job, his problems.

 

Conversation generosity paves the way to greater success in two important ways:

1. Conversation generosity wins friends.
2. Conversation generosity helps you learn more about people.

The average person would rather talk about himself than anything else in this world.

 

When things go wrong, just do two things:

1. Ask yourself, “What can I do to make myself more deserving on the next opportunity.
2. Don’t waste time and energy being discouraged. Don’t berate yourself, Plan to win next time.

Practice courtesy all he time. It makes other people feel better. It makes you feel better too. Don’t blame others when you receive a setback. Remember, how you think when you lose determines how long it will be until you win.

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