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How to Think Big? 4
Make Your
Attitudes Your Allies How we think shows through in how we act. Attitudes
are mirrors of the mind. They reflect thinking. Grow these
three Attitudes. Make them your allies in everything you do. 1.
Grow the attitude of I’m activated. To activate others, you must first activate yourself. To get them to be
enthusiastic, you must first be enthusiastic yourself. Enthusiasm can make
things 1100 percent better. Three steps
procedure that will help you to develop the power of enthusiasm 1.
Dig
into it deeper. Use
this technique to develop enthusiasm toward other people. Find out all you can
about another person. What he does his family, his background, his ideas and
ambitions and you’ll find your interest in and enthusiasm about him mounting. 2.
In
everything you do, life it up. Life up your handshaking. Make your hand clasp. Say
I’m glad to know you, “I’m glad to see you again”, Life up your smile, Smile
with your eyes. Nobody like artificial pasted-on rubbery smile. For when you
smile, people don’t see your teeth; they see a warm, enthusiastic personality,
someone they like. Life up your “thank you”, life up your talk, Is your ‘good
morning!’ really good?. Are your ‘congratulation’ enthusiastic?. Does your ‘How
are you?’ sound interested? People go along with the fellow who believes what
he says. Say it with life. 3.
Broadcast
good news. Good news
does more than get attention; good news pleases people, develops enthusiasm and
even promotes good digestion. Transmit good news to your family. Tell them the
good hat happened today Recall the amusing pleasant things you experienced and
let the unpleasant things stay buried. Transmit good news to the people you
work with. Give them encouragement; compliment them at every opportunity,
Listen to their problem. Be helpful. Let them know you believe they can
succeed, that you have faith in them. 2.
Grow the attitude of you are important. Each human being, whether he
lives in Ayala Alabang or GK sites, whether he’s ignorant or brilliant,
civilized or uncivilized, young or old, has this desire: He wants to feel
important. Has a natural desire to feel he is somebody. – this is the
strongest, most compelling non biological hunger. How to make people
important to you:
Here‘s how to
do it:
Daily exercise that pays off surprisingly
well: Ask yourself everyday, “What can I do today to make my wife and my family
happy?” – Do something special for your family often. It doesn’t have to be
something expensive. Its thoughtfulness that counts. Get the family or your
team. Give them planed attention. 3. Want
to make money? Then get the put-service first Attitude. Put service first, and money
takes care of itself always. When your record shows that you deserve more money
you’ll get more money. You can’t harvest money unless you plant the seeds that
grow money. And the seed of money is service. Always give people more than they
expect to get. Each little extra something you do for others is a money seed. Think Right
Toward People Success depends on the support of other people. The
only hurdle between you and what you want to be is the support of others.
(Example: Salesman depends on people to buy his product, Executive depend on
people to carryout his instruction, if they don’t, the company president or
owner fire the executive, not the employees. Collage dean depends on professors
to carry forward the educational program. Politician depends on voters to elect
him.) Ten simple but
tremendously powerful “like people” rules makes US Pres. Lyndon Johnson long
before he became president.
Take the initiative in building friendship.- Leaders
always do. It’s easy and natural for us
to tell ourselves, “Let him make the first move”, “Let them call us”, Let her
speak first” It’s easy too, virtually to ignore other people. The most
important person present is the one person most active in introducing himself.
Say: “I may not be very important to him, but he’s important to me. That’s why
I’ve got to get to know him.” Six ways to
win friends by exercising just a little initiative: 1.
Introduce
yourself to others at every possible opportunity. – a parties, meetings, at
work, everywhere. 2.
Be sure the
other person gets your name straight. 3.
Be sure you
can pronounce the other person’s name the way he pronounces it. 4.
Write down
the other person’s name, and be mighty sure you have it spelled correctly, if
possible get address and telephone no. 5.
Drop a
personal note or make a phone call to the new friends you feel you want to know
better. 6.
Say pleasant
things to strangers. It warms you up and gets you ready for the task ahead. Suggestion:
Key
fact: No person is all
good and no person is all bad. The perfect person just doesn’t exist. The person who does the most talking and
the person who is the most successful are rarely the same person. The more
successful the person, the more he practices conversation generosity, that is,
he encourages the other person to talk about himself, his views, his
accomplishment, his family, his job, his problems. Conversation
generosity paves the way to greater success in two important ways:
The average person would rather talk about himself
than anything else in this world. When things go
wrong, just do two things:
Practice courtesy all he time. It makes other people feel better. It makes you feel better too. Don’t blame others when you receive a setback. Remember, how you think when you lose determines how long it will be until you win. |
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