With a believing state of
mind, you can transform your purpose and goals into physical realities. Once
you truly believe and understand the power of belief, you can withstand any
setback and adjust to every necessary change.
When belief develops into a
conviction, when it is anchored in your soul and nothing can destroy it, then
belief becomes faith. And faith is a powerful force. “I tell you the truth, if
you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mountain, ‘Move
from here to there’ and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you.”
“Don’t say you can’t do
something until you’ve tried.” Whenever someone tells that the goal is
impossible, You look them straight in the eye and say, ‘Don’t tell me it’s
impossible until after I’ve already done it.’ Pam Lontos
Everybody is an expertin giving advice on how you cannot do
something. So forget about everybody. And then, when you encounter a hurdle – view it as an opportunity, not the end of the
world. Do what ever you need to do to get past it quickly. If you believe in
your dream, you’ll definitely get there. Success was built upon our self and
“You can do anything you
want to do in life, if you have a fierce/severe belief in yourself, a strong
will, a big heart, and some role models to inspire you.” Tyron Boques, 5’3” smallest player in the history of the NBA.
Personal Action Plan :Ten Steps to Developing an Unstoppable Belief System.
Take Immediate Action.
Your actions reflect your
beliefs, and it is what you do that demonstrates what you believe. By taking
even the smallest steps, you are communicating to yourself and to the world
that you believe in yourself and your dream. By taking consistent action, you
will generate the feeling until eventually you are confident, down to the
bottom of your soul. Every action you take raises your self-esteem and
confidence. You’re no longer sitting around waiting and hoping for something
magical to happen. You’re the creator of that “magic”. With your growing
self-esteem, you realize your dream is possible. If you want to be unstoppable,
show to the world that you believe in yourself. Act confident, act with
Write down one action you can take immediately that will put your dream into
motion. Do it now
Step 2: Acknowledge Your
It is commonly agreed that
the average person uses only a fraction of his/her potential mental capacity.
Make a realistic assessment of your current abilities. Now imagine that your abilities
have increase by 10%. What would you be doing if you immediately possessed 10%
more abilities, skills, and talents.
Exercises to help measure our true size
Determine your five chief
assets. Invite some objective friend to help, possibly your wife, your
superior, a professor, some intelligent person who will give you an honest
opinion.(Example: Assets frequently
listed are, education, experience, technical skills, appearance, well adjusted
home-life, attitudes, personality, and initiative.)
Next, under each asset, write the names of three persons you know who have
achieved large success but who do not have this asset to as great a degree as
When you’ve completed this exercise. You will find you outrank many
successful people on at least one asset, and the conclusion you can honestly
reach: You’re bigger than you think. – So fit your thinking to your true size.
Think as big as you really are and never, never, never sell yourself short.
“Everything is possible for
him who believes.” Mark 9:23
Step 3: Watch Your
Whatever you think about
constantly, you will achieve. If you’re continually focusing on how difficult
your goal is, you will never achieve it. You can overcome negative thoughts by
focusing on the possibilities. Ex. Think of challenging goal and then say to
yourself, How on earth did I think I could ever accomplish my goal? It’s too
big, too difficult. It’s impossible! What was I thinking? When those thoughts
come to mind, immediately replace them with the following type of mental
conversation: I know my goal is achievable because others have accomplished it
before me. I am absolutely committed to make it happen and I am willing to do
whatever is necessary to achieve my true heart’s desire.
List some of the negative self-talk in which you routinely engage. Think how
you could modify that dialog to have a positive effect on your thinking and on
the results. Ex. Instead of asking yourself, why me? Or why I can’t? Ask
yourself, what can I do to make things better, to turn my life around, to
improve the situation, to achieve what I long for? These questions instantly
change your focus and empower you.
Step 4: Neutralize Fear
Fear is a natural reaction
to change. It’s probably the number one reason people hesitate to start
anything new and opt instead for the way things are – safe, comfortable, and
familiar. Fear is a natural and physiological response designed to alert us to
the fact that we need to prepare to cope or we need to escape. However, the difference
between successful and unsuccessful people is their response to fear.
Successful people acknowledge fear and manage it by confronting the cause and
determining how they can prepare for the challenge ahead. They decide on
certain actions that will enable them to feel as competent and confident as
possible. To overcome fear, we must plunge/force ourselves into the very thing
we fear most. Only then, by taking risks, can we build our confidence. Don’t
let fear create the same regrets for you. Acknowledge fear. Prepare for it.
Identify one fear that is stopping you from achieving your goals. Neutralize it
by deciding what you can do to prepare yourself for the challenge. Then make
the commitment to do so. If the outcome isn’t what you planned, congratulate
yourself for your courage and consider what you’ve learned from the experience.
Modify your plan and take action again.
Step 5: Visualize
To visualize all that could
be is not just to think about it but to actively see it. This process of
imagination, when directed, is known as visualization. Visualizing what you
want before it happens is one of the most powerful strategies of achievers,
thousands of whom use visualization to rekindle their passion, clarify their
goals, and strengthen their faith. When you have developed a goal, visualize it
with as much detail and imagery as you can, exactly as you want and expect it
Identify a specific goal that support your purpose and passion. Imagine
yourself achieving that goal in every detail. Think about where you are at that moment, what you are
wearing, who is with you, what the temperature is, and what kind of feelings
you’re experiencing. Create the most compelling/convincing and exciting vision
you can imagine. Then write down what you have visualized or record it on a
tape or cd. Read your description or listen to your tape every single day. As
you do, your belief and confidence will grow.
“Success is a state of mind. If you want
success, start seeing yourself as a success.” Dr. Joyse
Step 6: Practice
Napoleon Hill, author of the
best-selling Think and Grow Rich,
suggests that repeating positive affirmations/confirmations to your
subconscious mind is an excellent method for developing faith. After
continually repeating an affirmation to oneself, eventually you come to believe
Make a list or write a statement of exactly what you want to accomplish. Go to
a quiet spot where you can close your eyes and repeat aloud your written
statement. As you repeat your statement, envision yourself having accomplished
your goal. Repeat your statement morning and night and you will find yourself
getting closer and closer to your goal. Place a written copy of your goal where
you can see it morning and night.
“For as he thinketh in his
heart, so is he.”Proverbs 23:7
Step 7: Find Others to Believe with You.
Unfortunately, it may be
difficult to eliminate all the negative people from your life. Your mother or
father, a business associate, a best friend, church brothers/sisters, or even
your spouse might be a negative influence. And since many of these people have
known you for years, they probably think of you in terms of your past
experiences and not in terms of who you are today or a person you can become.
Sometimes it’s easier to
find support from a complete stranger. A stranger doesn’t carry preconceived/predefined
ideas about what you can or cannot do. The message at this point is that
everyone needs someone to believe in him or her, and those who are closest to
you may not be the best people to fill that role. The key is to find someone
Take an inventory of the people in your life. Identify one or two individuals
who are supportive and can provide encouragement. In the initial stages of
implementing your dream, share it only with supportive people. As your dream
takes shape and you become stronger in your belief, you’ll be able to handle
the multitude of naysayer who will inevitably/unavoidably cross your path.
“Negativity works like
poison in the bloodstream: if you give into its power, it will weaken your
confidence and kill your dream.” Your goals are simply too important to let
Step 8: Draw Strength
from a Higher Power.
So many of the unstoppable
individuals we read about drew strength from God. By relying on Him, they were
able to overcome profound/thoughtful obstacle and self-doubt.I have drawn strength from adopting two
beliefs. The 1st is that God loves me. The 2nd is that
everything happens for a reason and ultimately that reason will serve me.
“God is with me; God is helping me; God is guiding me.” Acknowledge that God is
with you and nothing can defeat you. Believe that you receive power from your
Creator. By stating an affirmation such as this several times each day and
visualizing God’s presence, your faith will deepen.
Step 9: Dealing with
Critic and Rejection.
“I am looking for a lot of
men who have an infinite capacity to not know what can’t be done.” Henry Ford
They say that “everybody’s a
critic,” and that never seems more true than when you’re pursuing a dream and
trying to enlist support. There will always be well-meaning people who want to
“protect” you from your “unrealistic fantasies.”
The only opinion about your
dream that really counts is yours. The negative comments of others merely
reflect their limitations – not yours. There is nothing unrealistic about a
dream that aligns with your purpose, ignites your passion, and inspires you to
plan and persevere until you attain it. On the contrary, it is unrealistic to
expect a person with such drive and commitment not to succeed.
The most effective way to counter negativity is to learn all you can about what
you want to accomplish. Identify the primary challenges you will face while
pursuing your goal. Formulate strategies for overcoming each one. Armed with
knowledge and a plan, you will be in a much stronger position and more
confident when your critics offer unwanted advice.
long will you go on training all day in a gymnasium and living in a dream
world?” Arnold Schwarzenegger’s family’s
pleas for him to get a “respectable” job, not understanding his desire to
become Mr. Universe
“Liquidate the business right now and recoup
whatever cash you can. If you don’t, you’ll end up penniless.”
The attorney of cosmetic tycoon Mary Kay Ash, weeks before she opened her first
a cutthroat/competitive business and you’ve got no chance of success.” Accountant
for Estee Lauder, founder of a multibillion dollar cosmetic empire.
have a nice voice, but it’s nothing special.” What
a teacher said when rejecting Diana Ross after she auditioned for a part in a
high school musical.
will never make the cover of Vogue because you don’t have blond hair or blue
eyes.” A remark to Cher
by photographer Richard Avedon. When Cher did
appear on the cover, Vogue sold more copies than it had ever sold before.
Dealing with Experts.
“In the beginner’s mind
there are many possibilities, in the expert’s mind there are few.” Shunryu Suzuki, Scholar
Another type of critic, a
little different from naysayer – and certainly more threatening – is the
“expert”. Webster’s defines an expert as one who is “knowledgeable through
training and experience.” An expert can certainly be more intimidating than
your Uncle Joe who knows nothing about your field but everything about what you
should do in it.
Experts can offer insight and
be a great resource. However, consider the following:
Expert knowledge is based on past
experience; it may not apply to an innovative idea for the future.
Expert are seldom known for their
creativity and imagination. Pioneers and innovators use their intuitions;
experts use data. That data may apply to past models and have no relevance
whatsoever to present or future models. Peter Drucker, one of the most
respected voices in the business world wrote, “market research does not work.
One cannot do market research on something that does not exist.” The dreamer’s
domain/field is that of the unproven and the possible, and that domain is alien
territory for the expert.
Experts have a vested interest in
preserving the status quo. Gene Landrum offers this insight in his book,
Profiles of Genius. “A major problem with expert opinion is the tendency of the
expert to have a strong desire to preserve and validate the present way of
Lets take a look at some
actual expert opinions offered to visionary entrepreneurs.
one will stand in front of a TV screen and play a game with no physical action,
like pinball.” Executive’s comment after viewing an
early demonstration of Pong, the first video game by Atari founder Nolan
one will buy a tape player that doesn’t record.”
Opinion of market researchers at Sony when chairman Akio Morita first proposed
a huge risk, and it will never fly.” Aeronautical engineer’s evaluation of Bill
Lear’s design for a jet.
computers are a hobbyist fad.” Prediction of IBM, Intel,
HP, Atari, and countless other electronics companies.
will rent videotapes, but they’ll never buy them.” Opinion
of media experts who were later proven wrong by Jane Fonda’s exercise tapes.
global, twenty-four-hour news network will never work.” Network
executives response to Ted Turner’s plans for CNN.
no market for it. If there were, major airlines would already be offering it.
You won’t be able to find reliable couriers.” Conclusion
of advisor's to Fred Smith, founder of Federal Express.
Action: The next time an
“expert” attacks your dream, take comfort in realizing that people who achieved
some of the greatest accomplishments of humankind were also told their goals
were not possible. Trust your intuition and your inner heart’s desire, and
continue forward. Your confidence will grow every time you take risk and
overcome the fear of the unknown.
“Believe in yourself and there will come a day when others will have
no choice but to believe with you.”